Why I Met The One (not How)

I don’t know about you, but I love hearing about how people met The One. Everybody’s story is charming in its own way; even those that don’t quite start off in the most straightforward of circumstances.

And I’m delighted to be celebrating 20 years today since I met my wonderful husband!

We often delight in recalling all the glorious details of how we met our partners, but a whole lot of interesting stuff takes place before that auspicious moment occurs - and a lot of the time we don’t even realise it. How we met is interesting, for sure, but have you ever considered why?

What many of us don’t realise is that we are creating our reality every waking moment. Many of us do it unconsciously, but some of us (like me, and my clients) do it with conscious intention.

How we create our reality is really quite simple. The world bombards us with millions of pieces of sensory information every second and so to stop our heads exploding, the Reticular Activating System in our brain kicks in. The RAS is a network of neuropathways in the brainstem, which filters everything down to the amount an average human can handle - between five and nine bits of info instead. 

But how does the RAS know which bits to choose? It makes its choice by using an internal system, uniquely tailored to you: what you believe. Much like a social media algorithm, you get to see what you expect to see.

Take a moment to think about that. Everybody and everything you want in life already exists. If you haven’t got what you want out of life yet, it’s simply because your beliefs aren’t fully aligned to the object of your desire.

Conscious Alignment (or The Law of Attraction) works for everything, including Love. After being terminally single for years I knew I had to make some changes to meet the man of my dreams, and that it was down to me to create my own magic. I wasn’t working as a therapist then, but it was this experience that led me to a new career, as well as my new man. This is what happened:

I set an intention

One boozy Saturday night about six months before I met The One, a couple of my single friends and I were chatting about the kind of guys we wanted in our lives. For fun, we narrowed it down to the kind of job they did, and why that occupation was appealing to us. One of them said she needed a doctor, the other said she’d like a lawyer. I wanted a joiner, someone who worked with their hands and would inhabit a physical, simpler world (my job at the time was all about thinking).

There’s a few reasons why this cosmic ordering was so potent:

We were making the intention together. Combined energy and focus turbo-charges any intention setting.

We set the intention and its reasons clearly (we didn’t even think about it as intention setting at the time; just a fun chat), then moved on. We didn’t keep the intention in our minds, nor did we or stress about the outcome. Lightness and trust are key components in an intention coming true.

We stated the intentions OUT LOUD. The power of voice to bring something into reality can’t be understated. Vibration and frequency are the fabric of the universe.

I changed my beliefs around men

I had been internet dating for a few months at that time, and whilst I hadn’t met anyone special, one thing came through to me loud and clear - there were decent blokes around. Good guys who wanted to make a genuine connection with someone. And they were real, and lived close by. Who knew? For once, I truly believed there might be a chance. 

I was open to something different

We’ve all come across that person who has a fixed idea of what The Person For Them should be like. I have to admit that I was one of them. I had two patterns of behaviour in those days. Firstly, I made snap judgements on guys who approached me, yet stepped to the ones who were utter bastards. My second pattern was that I always socialised in the same places. 

So that fateful night, as we were getting ready to go out, I told my best friend that I was going to talk to everybody who talked to me. Thank God I did. My friends helped me break the second pattern too, by taking me to a dodgy nightclub I’d never been in before!

Change your beliefs, change your life

Those three steps paved the way for The One to step into my path. Literally. 

I had aligned to what I desired, and declared it. My beliefs around men were far more positive than they had ever been and because I now believed that it could happen, I gave it the space and opportunity to manifest into my reality. And throughout the process, my filters of perception were resetting themselves in order to show me that very thing.

I’d love to tell you all about how it went, but I’ll leave that for another time. All I want you to know is that if I can do it, so can you. 

And just in case you were wondering, The Man of My Dreams is actually a joiner. And what makes this story even more wonderful is that my single friends married their lawyer and doctor …

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